"Age ain't nothing but a number!" [Anonymous cliche which later became the title of an Aaliyah CD]
"Age ain't nothing but a number!" [Anonymous cliche which later became the title of an Aaliyah CD]
Chronological age does NOT determine mental stability or emotional maturity. Please consider that before you close your mind to the possibility of connecting with someone who is much younger than you are. From this point forward, I want you [and anybody reading] to examine every person you encounter in life as an INDIVIDUAL! No two (2) people are exactly alike. Many of us have similarities but there is always going to be something that sets us apart from any and everyone else in the world.
My heart began to sink as I read your words. Your experience is unfortunate and I hope the drama ends immediately. It may be necessary to block the numbers of this guy and his friends. Also block his email address or simply change yours [and your phone number] if you must. If that isn't enough, get a restraining order against the guy. You need to completely remove him from your life. You must do so and not allow him to continue enraging you. Your rage is the food that feeds his ignorance. Don't keep feeding a monster [ignorance, in this case] that can never be satisfied! You've already told this guy that you don't want to see him again. Now you need to show him you are serious!
When dealing with people [on any level], take clues from the world around you. People who are unstable start a job and seem to be wonderful at work until that ninety (90) day probation period ends. Then they show their true colors because they feel more secure and think they are less likely to get fired for it [by that point]. Of course in many cases, they aren't the nice punctual people they were during the probation period. They no longer feel the need to "act" like a wonderful person if that's not who they truely are. That's a huge clue or insightful idea to use for your life, friendships, and relationships! Let it work to your advantage.
Human behavior can be so predictable! Give people a probation period. That way you allow enough time to pass so their true colors can show. Evaluate their performance during that period. It doesn't necessarily have to be ninety (90) days, but that's ideal. Pick a time frame and stick with that time frame. It's worth it when you wait it out while watching the wonderful act deteriorate and watching a hideous monster of a person emerge! On the flip side, it's also worth it if you wait and a great person remains consistant during the probation period. If that happens, you may want to consider moving forward with that consistant person! It's very hard for an actor to remain in character for an extended period of time. So an actor always fails this test of time and consistancy. Your goal should be to develop a friendship and potentially a relationship with a genuine person, not an actor.
"Tired," the way to gain peace and live in a positive environment is to push all negativity out of your space. Surround yourself with mentally positive people. Spend time participating in activities that make you happy and leave little room for negativity to creep in. Speak positive words to everyone you come in contact with. Be consistant as well. This will help you attract positive energy [and attention] and help thwart negativity simultaneously! Think about it!
From my lips to your soul...
Redd