Redd's Vocabulary:

FORGIVENESS - to cease to feel resentment against an offender; to grant relief from payment; to excuse or pardon without keeping a record of the wrongdoing

REPENT - to change one's mind; to turn from a fault and dedicate oneself to the amendment of one's life; to feel regret or contrition

To gain forgiveness, a person should first repent. The keys to repentance are ACKNOWLEDGING the wrong and CONFESSING the wrong. These are generally signs of "good faith." Meaning, the guilty party honestly assessed the situation and feels genuinely sorry [acknowledgement]. He or she then turns to the offended party and tells of their fault [confession]. This person should be forgiven, especially if there was no previous history of such a fault! "Marcus," your guy was honest and mature enough to approach you and repent! That's amazing! You are with someone who did that even though it's popular to sneak around, be dishonest, and try to cover up all infidelity! That is to be applauded!

"Marcus," you've already stated that you "think he really is sorry." If so, give the guy a FRESH start. You dealt with the situation now wipe his slate clean and don't bring it up again. Doing so will prove that you didn't genuinely forgive him after he genuinely confessed! He confessed, you didn't find out on your own. HE told YOU! So he isn't the kind of guy who is trying to do the wrong thing. However, you are being negative, "if he does it again then that's it!" You are verbally setting yourself up for failure with that negative statement. It's almost like you are asking for or expecting it. Instead of being negative [and expecting it], do the opposite [and expect a positive outcome]. Speak and act positively. Treat him like GOLD so that he won't even consider giving his attention to another. If you continue to be negative, you simply open the door and make room for the positive to attract his attention! In turn, he'll leave you alone with your negativity and be drawn to a positive person with magnetic force. Think about that!

Redd's Declaration:

If you don't cherish and appreciate what you have, it may never come around again if you lose it! People are always crying about wanting to find a good person. When they find a good person, they don't usually know how to keep that good person. Let's not confuse a good person with a perfect person. No human being is perfect! If you want perfection, you will be single and lonely forever [because you won't find it in another human]! When you have a good person, do good things for them and with them! Goodness is a word with a positive connotation. So to keep a good person interested in you, you must be mentally and emotionally positive and supportive at all times!

From my lips to your soul...

Redd

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