You won't have sex for free with someone you know, but you are willing to pay someone you don't know for sex?
Read my question again. It's rhetorical of course. I think you are allowing your frustration to get the best of you. In doing so, you
aren't thinking logically. BREATHE and THINK before you act!
Contrary to popular belief, there are honest men [of all ethnicities and sexual orientations] who want more than a physical encounter [and will go the distance away from the bedroom]. They just happen to be an endagered minority who don't spend time with the popular majority becasuse it doesn't flow with their lifestyle. If you spend your time in places where promiscuous men and or "DL" men spend their time, then you shouldn't expect to find the opposite. Come on now, this isn't "rocket science." It's logical thinking!
If a formula doesn't work, it's time to change the formula in order to get results. If standing back staring aimlessly hasn't worked, then try introducing yourself to people who's attention you've captured! You expect for people to approach or greet you, yet you haven't been willing to do the same. In most cases, it's unwise to expect receiving what you are unwilling to give [unless there is an agreement beforehand]! In your case, you don't know these people so there is no established agreement or protocal. It's INSANE to keep doing the same thing and expecting different results.
Let's focus more on some of the positive things you mentioned. You like "concerts, stage plays, and comedy spots!" These are great places to meet great people. You will be surprised by the amount of solid people you meet in neutral places that aren't sexually charged. You need to open your mind to things other than a relationship [initially]. Try working toward building friendships first. An excellent way to meet solid people with whom you may later build a relationship is through the referral of solid friends! There are multiple ways to find what you want but you seem to have tunnel vision like so many others. You seem to think that you will only find an honest monogomous man if you hang around a bunch of men! That's a misconception. Remember, if the formula doesn't work, CHANGE IT! Change your surroundings and circle of friends and watch your life take a positive turn!
From my lips to your soul...
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