You HAD a beautiful relationship which became very ugly the moment you cheated! You need to recognize that
YOU CHEATED or else there is no hope for your situation. Please try not to cushion the blow by attempting to write it off as a mere
acting on urges. You say your relationship doesn't lack anything in your eyes. But, in fact it lacks HONESTY, COMMUNICATION, MONOGOMY,
and STABILITY. Your eyes have been closed the whole time. I am not [by any means] trying to put you down. However, I am trying to make
you see that it's not as beautiful as you trick yourself into believing. TRUST ME, if your fiance were reading this, she would NOT
consider your relationship to be beautiful either! I need you to see that what you did was TOTALLY WRONG! I don't think you acknowledge
that yet.
If you two can talk about anything, you should have found a way to talk about this before it led to
CHEATING! So now you have the responsibility to finally be honest with your fiance about what you've been doing. You need to give her
the opportunity to make a choice. She needs to decide if she is willing to forgive and work with you or release you from her life! A
relationship involves two people making decisions TOGETHER. Stop trying to make all of the decisions for her! You must work WITH her
on making decisions which will be extremely tough for both of you.
"An ounce of PREVENTION is worth a pound of CURE!" Working through and AVOIDING problems is a thousand times
easier than trying to FIX problems that were not avoided! Prevention involves being honest with yourself and ANYBODY you may potentially
get involved with. Primarily because at that point, you haven't hurt anybody yet! You probably don't realize how much DAMAGE this does to
a person's spirit, mind, and emotions. The damage done is often catastrophic to the person who was cheated on by someone he or she loves
and trusts.
The root or foundation of a faithful monogomous relationship is SELFLESSNESS! Thinking of the one you are
committed to. Making sure that you do everything in your power to avoid hurting the one you are with. Recognizing that your feeling of
love must accompany faithful behavior in order to be genuine! The root or foundation of unfaithfulness in a relationship is SELFISHNESS!
Thinking excessively and exclusively of YOURSELF. The inability to exhibit SELF-CONTROL [restraint exercised over one's impulses, emotions,
or desires]. A selfish man or woman needs to be SINGLE!
"Cocoacutie," talk to your fiance. It's imperative that you do so! Be as honest and open as you possibly can.
Deal with this NOW before the wound gets infected, making the problem even worse later! Of course, this isn't an easy issue to deal with or
overcome. But, it's better to deal with it now than to ruin more lives later because you're scared to be honest about your impulses and
actions. Please do the right thing. Being honest is the right thing to do!
From my lips to your soul...
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