There is nothing necessarily wrong with you wanting to be "dominated and freaky."
However, there is something wrong with you wanting to be treated like a "bitch!" You are a complex human,
a "bitch" is a DOG! I understand that you have fantasies and desires, but you take them to the extreme!
Extremes are never good. Especially NEGATIVE extremes. Let's look at the extremes here: You want a "thug."
You don't want to be treated well. You don't want a relationship. You've only made mention of sex. You
highlighted the fact that your friend is rich [though you were trying somehow to make a point, it spoke
volumes about you].
You need to find a place of balance. If you want a "thug," this individual
will need to have more than just the ability to "treat you like a bitch" in the bedroom or you will still
be disatisfied [with him and with yourself]. If you don't want to be treated well sexually, at least you
should demand to be treated well away from the bedroom. Since you don't want an intimate relationship,
you should make sure that you have healthy friendships. You are so into sex, but make sure you have something
to offer besides sex [decent communication skills, goals for your life, hobbies that have nothing to do
with sex, etc]. Even if money turns you on, learn to be content with or without it!
You, my friend, will probably find it temporarily gratifying to engage in anonymous
casual sexual encounters with "thugs" at adult bookstores, gyms, and with people you find on the internet.
Right now that is glamorous for you. If you want to be treated like trash, you will always see yourself as
trash. These "thugs" you desire will treat their women well but deficate on you because you are nothing to
them. You are nothing to them because you are nothing in your own eyes. Your issues are deeply rooted in self
hatred. You need more than a simple answer from an advice column to help your situation!
From my lips to your soul...
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