Notice that the root of the word relationship is RELATE [to show or establish logical and or casual connection between two people, places, or things]. In order to find what you are looking for, you will have to become comfortable in atmospheres where other relationship oriented people are comfortable. The keys here are establishing "LOGICAL and or CASUAL" connections. If you don't spend time in the library, museums, theater, restaurants, grocery stores, Barnes & Noble, or Starbucks [where lots of relationship orented people frequent], it's not LOGICAL for you to go to those place and make CASUAL connections! Especially if you are uncomfortable in those places.

If you like the internet [which is totally NOT a relationship oriented arena], it's definitely not LOGICAL that you will make CASUAL connections there, leading to a healthy relationship. Understand that your desires and the desires of most people online don't RELATE. There is a major clash! You are trying to mix oil and water. Avoid the internet for purposes other than entertainment. Try meeting people through friends you already have. A good friend can possibly introduce you to a more stable relationship oriented person. A genuine friend isn't going to hook you up with a MONSTER (if they can help it)!

It's unlikely (but not impossible) that you will find relationship oriented people in the clubs, bars, malls, and parks! There are always exceptions to the rule, but rarely. Relationship oriented people don't mind partying, but there is balance to their lives. They party every once in awhile and spend just as much (if not more) time having fun in neutral places [bowling alley, skating rink, sports clubs, amusement parks, etc]. Neutral places are where people of all genders and orientations hang out. Gender and orientation aren't at all a focus of the activities in these places.

You can't possibly have balance in your life if you only know and hang out with people of the homosexual persuasion. You must connect with people of all races, ethnic groups, cultures, social status, genders, and sexual orientations. Without all of those facets in the mix, you are incomplete. Being incomplete is imbalanced. Imbalance leads to broken and dysfunctional relationships. You will simply fall comfortably into the stereotypical lifestyle.

Don't feed into the stereotype that one must always party, drink, smoke, and occassionally do drugs to have "fun" and live life to the fullest. For a relationship oriented person, living life to the fullest is balancing work and fun while making time for that special person in their life. Honestly ask yourself, "am I a relationship oriented person or am I just fascinated by the idea of being in a relationship?" Your answer will determine the action you take.

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